I believe the real issue with sex is about how honest you are with yourself and your partner.   The distinction or the blending of  Love And Sex has been the hub of many conversations and books for ages as long as the human heart can recall.

Here I would like to express my thoughts on a “model” I witness being promoted in modern societies which tends to manifest “sex” as a sport in a sense that it gets better with practice and time, although we all have somehow experienced the emptiness and unfulfillment that comes after a sport-like intercourse.  Taking the risk of probably being characterized as a prudent conservative, I must insist on aconclusion that comes both from my personal observations, and my discussions with many women and men friends of mine.

Art is also something that improves with practice and time, but instead of being seen as a leisure-time activity, it’s considered a high level creative process where both talent and inspiration are involved.  Well if making ART means I’m investing a part of my soul in my creative activity  and I elevate my existence to the sphere of  high purity and quality energy, then why should making LOVE be different?

Some may object to the use of the term “MAKING LOVE” instead of “HAVING SEX” since we’re trying to study “SEX” here, as an act of carnal pleasure and nothing more.  But isn’t it a solid fact that,  we can’t separate soul from body?  Otherwise having sex would be nothing more than a “meat meets meat” type of  liquids exchange.

My point is, that nomatter if we’re having sex with the love of our life, or someone we just feel physicaly attracted to,  SEX has to be a form of ART.  The ART of ultimate soul expression.  Only through this kind of passionate and absolute soul expression, we can feel satisfied and fulfilled, and it doesn’t  necessarily have to start from our partner.  This climax of “giving”, “opening” and “passionately creating” an ARTFUL panel of sensations, has to be triggered by us.  For the sake of our wellbeing, it is essential that we give our best performance with the partner we choose to share intimate moments with.

It has to be a DANCE act.  Every person is pure energy. Rhythm lives inside us.  Our heart gives the “tempo” but if you just think about it , every single  bit of ours has a vibrational frequency.  Good SEX is about an harmony of senses and sensational rhythms that bring the couple to synchronization and ecstatic pleasure… a big explosive wave that leaves most senses numb once peak is passed.

So, the moment you are closer to your partner, leave all the noises of the world aside, forget about the social or media imposed stereotypes, and let your inner self free to express the ART that comes from the core of your existence.  In those moments,  you are each other’s whole universe so don’t ignore the hidden potential of a big adventure that can push you both to exceed your known limits.

I know I may sound crude, but I’m sure you’d like to get more specific “guidelines” to this “Magical Experience”.  Well, lets keep things as simple as possible.  Man’s epicenter is his penis.  Anything else comes second to his insatiable desire to be pleased there.  What makes to a MAN the critical difference between good sex and UNFORGETABLE sex, is the degree of having his penis pleased and specially treated.

To the modern man who is drawned under piles of soul consuming responsibilities, sources of stress and challenges, getting an erection has become a pursuit instead of being a token, as nature dictates.  Women are much luckier than men in regards to the aspect of being able to “hide” their responsiveness, and the intensity of their female libido.  But to a man,  how fast and how hard his erectile function can be, determines the “category” he will be listed to.  I protest to this UNFAIR and INHUMAN way of treating men.  I’m absolutely sure, that most of those who suffer from various types of dysfunctions, are mainly victims of a social taboo.  The false cycle has no end and no beginning since it reproduces this sense of impotency and pushes men deeper to the well of self-pitty and self-rejection.

To the woman it’s a TWO-WAYS route, meaning the G-spot vaginal orgasm, and the clitoridic one.  But in both cases, what has been described even by ancient manuscripts as the preliminary stage of a woman’s ULTIMATE Satisfaction is the “swelling” of her labiae.  That comes not only with foreplay or repetitive thrusts, strokes or tapping, but also with the stimulation of her brain.  Since men are mainly visual and women are mainly acoustic, it is equally important to a man’s satisfaction to see and visualize erotic images, as it is to a woman’s satisfaction to hear whispers, words and descriptions or erotic scenes into her ear.

Before these notes of mine take the form of an article on  “sexual physiology” I’d rather challenge you to emerge your thoughts a bit to the points I touched, and share your approach or opinion.